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My Ex-Boyfriend Saved Me to Boost His Own Ego
The complications that come with ‘White Knight Syndrome’.
Almost two years ago, I was quite an active member on dating apps despite the fact I could not have been more emotionally unavailable.
I had gone through what was notably the most traumatic event of my young adult life. In the span of 24 hours, I was sexually assaulted by my boyfriend at the time and another man at a party. The experience not only left me in complete shock, but the unhealed wound left me spiraling.
I wanted to do anything I could to get “that control” back. In my mind at that moment, the answer to that was dating apps.
Trauma leads you to make some strange choices for yourself.
Unfortunately, you can imagine that my energy at that time could only attract the worst type of people. And sure enough, it did. I started dating a guy who just wanted to “save me” like it was a video game achievement or something to show off.
Entering a relationship with someone who only wants to help you for the better interest of themself is the perfect recipe for White Knight Syndrome.
